- An individual who describes their journey on AVEN says, "I am 22 now. I’ve long grown used to the idea of asexuality and I know it fits me better than any other orientation. I know that I’ve never experienced sexual attraction. I do have a libido and I find it a rather pointless part of my being- if I lost it (apart from the worry of a medical issue if it went!) I wouldn’t miss it. I am ‘out’ on all my frequent websites online and to my brother and cousin, but not to my parents because I know they wouldn’t accept it. It’s a lot easier to be ‘out’ online but I did go to Pride London 2010 in order to help raise visibility even though social situations and one-to-one visibility makes me very uncomfortable. I am one of those people to whom asexuality is just a part of who I am, not something I need to shout about for my own sake. I shout about it for the sake of others. I’m glad at least that I was stubborn in school. I’m glad that I’m not that romantically inclined so I’m not in the desperate situation of trying to make a mixed orientation relationship work. I’m glad that I got to know myself before having or trying to share myself with a life partner. Some people aren’t that lucky."
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- Courtney describes her struggle with coming to terms with the idea of asexuality. She talks about the difficulty of coming out as something that is hardly recognized. Today more people are at least aware of the term "asexuality" and there are various asexual resources, but there is still a long way to go before complete awareness and acceptance are met. Courtney discusses how hard it was to come out when she still had some uncertainties. Especially when so many people are unsure of exactly what asexuality entails, it is hard to be certain about your identity. She then realizes that life is full of uncertainties, but asexuality still seems to be the term that fits her the most. Click here to view Courtney's full story.
- In one recent interview study published in a 2007 issue of the Archives of Sexual Behavior, a group of self-described asexuals was asked how they came to be aware they were different.
- In one recent interview study published in a 2007 issue of the Archives of Sexual Behavior, a group of self-described asexuals was asked how they came to be aware they were different.
- One woman responded: "I would say I’ve never had a dream or a fantasy, a sexual fantasy, for example, about being with another woman. So I can pretty much say that I have no lesbian sort of tendencies whatsoever. You would think that by my age I would have some fantasy or dream or something, wouldn’t you? … But I’ve never had a dream or a sexual fantasy about having sex with a man, either. That I can ever, ever remember."
This is the first part a three videos that follows three individuals who identify as asexual. This video allows the audience to step into the shoes of an asexual person and see just what an asexual lifestyle looks like. This is also an interesting video because it is not filmed in the U.S., showing how asexuality is a world wide identity. |
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- Mandrewliter says, "At least since high school, I’ve been aware that I was sexually different from my peers. I don’t know if there was a first moment when I realized this, but I have a few memories that stand out. Once I was riding on a bus with a few other male students. The conversation turned to a topic many asexuals have come to dread: “Who do you think is hot?” Before this point, I had never been in such a conversation before. I had been asked who I liked, but I could answer that because I did occasionally get crushes on girls, which usually lasted a while. One of the guys on the bus answered the question, talking about this one girl. One of the other boys teased him about how he liked her. But he responded that he didn’t like her; he just thought she was hot. I was taken aback by this distinction. Everyone else understood it, but this meant that there was this experience of thinking someone was hot entirely separate from liking them that I had never felt. When it was my turn to answer the question, I said I didn’t think anyone was hot. No one believed me."
- "Asexual. Nonsexual. Antisexual. Celibate. These terms have different connotations depending on who you talk to, and at different times all of them have been applied to me, correct or no. But no matter how you define it, my “condition” can be summed up in one sentence: I don't want to have sex. Plain and simple. It is not a case of avoiding sex out of fear, or as a result of a perceived moral obligation, or out of disinterest in starting a family. I just seem to have been spared the development of sexual inclination--maybe I have a biologically nonexistent libido, or maybe I have a psychological disinterest in physical intimacy, or maybe some of both . . . but the end result is simply that I have no interest in sex, and I like it that way." Acer, from AVEN
- "Asexual. Nonsexual. Antisexual. Celibate. These terms have different connotations depending on who you talk to, and at different times all of them have been applied to me, correct or no. But no matter how you define it, my “condition” can be summed up in one sentence: I don't want to have sex. Plain and simple. It is not a case of avoiding sex out of fear, or as a result of a perceived moral obligation, or out of disinterest in starting a family. I just seem to have been spared the development of sexual inclination--maybe I have a biologically nonexistent libido, or maybe I have a psychological disinterest in physical intimacy, or maybe some of both . . . but the end result is simply that I have no interest in sex, and I like it that way." Acer, from AVEN